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Old 01-13-2013, 06:22 PM   #1
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Essentially, after a nap, you are woken up by a text message from a random number on her phone. You ask her who it is as this has never happened before. Keep in mind that she never had a passcode lock on her phone before, but put one on 1-2 days before that because you have a passcode lock on your phone and she jokingly accused you of hiding something.

So you ask her who it is, and she says she doesn't know. You ask "don't you want to find out?" but she says no and leaves to the living room. You are starting to think something is up.

So while you are in the room, another text comes in and you swipe it and it opens for whatever reason. So you text back asking "who is this." After a few back and forth, it turns out being some guy she went out with before. According to the guy, it was 2 months before, which would mean it was when you were with her. (later, according to her, it was before you even met. You do believe her, and she later texts the guy asking if it is possible it was before you guys met, and he says "it's possible he doesn't remember.") His second or third text asks you to go out drinking. So even if they went out 3 months ago, it's weird that this guy would ask her to go out with such bravado after 3 months of not talking.

So she comes back in the room and asks what I am doing, and I calmly say I am talking to her friend. She flips out, accuses me of invading her privacy, and kicks me out of her house.

So I collect all my things, and leave.

Two days later she texts you to break up and "apologize." You politely decline.

Later, you find out that she created an okcupid account and has been on since at least the day she texted you to break up.

Do you think I was wrong for texting that guy? You think that warrants a breakup on her part?

Yesyes, please try to keep the nasty comments to a min.

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Old 01-13-2013, 06:25 PM   #2
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Yes, you invaded her privacy. That was bad behavior on your part and you shouldn't do crap like that.

The good news is it doesn't sound like you had much of a relationship to begin with, so you didn't lose much and you might as well find out sooner rather than later.

In the future, keep your hands off other people's phones.
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Old 01-13-2013, 06:26 PM   #3
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0 posts, yet you come to e46F of all places for relationship advice?

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As for your situation, break up with this girl and find someone else.

She clearly doesn't know what she wants. And is quite obviously fooling around with other guys behind your back. I don't think you were right or wrong with what you did but if a girl started acting that awkward around me, I'd probably end up distancing myself real fast.
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Old 01-13-2013, 06:34 PM   #6
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Dude you seem incredibly insecure, its probably what turned her off in the first place. I wouldn't go through a girls phone, not because I don't care but because its none of my business.

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Old 01-13-2013, 06:34 PM   #7
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You crossed a line when you jumped into her phone, and then started texting from it.

Don't ask questions you don't want the answer to.

Three months is way too early to deal with stuff like this. After she broke up with you the first two times in two months, you should just move on. This isn't "the one" for you.
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I will say this as politely as i can. Leave her, she's not right for you.

Ps, i really don't think of it as an invasion of privacy.. its your gf for christ sake, you are allowed to go through her phone just like she would be allowed to go through yours

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I will say this as politely as i can. Leave her, she's not right for you.

Ps, i really don't think of it as an invasion of privacy.. its your gf for christ sake, you are allowed to go through her phone just like she would be allowed to go through yours
That doesn't make her "yours", and at three months, that's way too soon for a girl to assume she can look through my phone on a whim, let alone text somebody from it.
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Yes, you invaded her privacy. That was bad behavior on your part and you shouldn't do crap like that.

The good news is it doesn't sound like you had much of a relationship to begin with, so you didn't lose much and you might as well find out sooner rather than later.

In the future, keep your hands off other people's phones.
I agree with this post 100%!
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Old 01-13-2013, 06:45 PM   #14
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I will say this as politely as i can. Leave her, she's not right for you.

Ps, i really don't think of it as an invasion of privacy.. its your gf for christ sake, you are allowed to go through her phone.
I think they are just busting balls. Anyone in a serious relationship would inquire into a strange text from a random guy. As for going through her phone, I wouldn't have. I actually tried to just ask her about it. It's something I normally don't do.

It would be different if she just explained it was some guy she dated before me. But she lied about not knowing who it was, and I knew she was lying.

Might I point out it did end up being some guy asking her out on a date?
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Damn I usually read these threads for funny commentary... this one is not very funny.

were is griffin, need something positive to come out of this.

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she sounds kinda psycho, run
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