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Old 02-07-2013, 11:48 PM   #1
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Engagement off, spend money on hpf?

So I been in love with this one girl for a long time now and it's all been good but lately she been pissing me off like she don't know what she wants. I staked up 25 grand to marry this b**** but today outa no where I said f*** it I can't deal with this anymore. I'm not gonna call her and not explain anything so 25g are probably gonna go into my 2004 M3. Thinking to go stage 2 hpf? Any support out there?
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So you're not going to inform your fiancée, that the wedding is off?
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Old 02-08-2013, 12:19 AM   #3
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So you're not going to inform your fiancée, that the wedding is off?
She never made it to be my fiancé. I was planning to pop the question any day but I'm done. Maybe I showed her way to much attention that makes her feel like she can do whatever she wants.
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Old 02-08-2013, 12:26 AM   #4
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She never made it to be my fiancé. I was planning to pop the question any day but I'm done. Maybe I showed her way to much attention that makes her feel like she can do whatever she wants.
Oh I see. Well, as they say; marriage is the leading cause of divorce.

Save half of the money, forget you even have it

Put the rest into the car.
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Old 02-08-2013, 12:30 AM   #5
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Old 02-08-2013, 12:40 AM   #6
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Blow a little bit, maybe some nice coils or something. Not the whole thing dude
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Old 02-08-2013, 12:53 AM   #7
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So I been in love with this one girl for a long time now and it's all been good but lately she been pissing me off like she don't know what she wants. I staked up 25 grand to marry this b**** but today outa no where I said f*** it I can't deal with this anymore. I'm not gonna call her and not explain anything so 25g are probably gonna go into my 2004 M3. Thinking to go stage 2 hpf? Any support out there?
Wtf OP? Is it your special time of the month? I'm guessing you're really young?

If you love this girl, learn to f'ing communicate. If you don't tell her what's bothering you, things will never change.
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Old 02-08-2013, 01:34 AM   #8
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Wtf OP? Is it your special time of the month? I'm guessing you're really young?

If you love this girl, learn to f'ing communicate. If you don't tell her what's bothering you, things will never change.
Thats a sensible answer.

If its that bad, sit her down and have a serious talk. Tell her that she cant be acting that way if she wants you to take it to the next level.

Otherwise, If you dont already have a house, id put 3.5% down on an fha loan and get a place instead of dumping it on 7 yr old car. A house and a stock m3 will get you a lot more poon if u end up single than a modded m3 alone. Plus you can cash out on it in a couple yrs when prices peak - up to 250k of earnings on the sale will be tax free.

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Old 02-08-2013, 02:42 AM   #9
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Wtf OP? Is it your special time of the month? I'm guessing you're really young?

If you love this girl, learn to f'ing communicate. If you don't tell her what's bothering you, things will never change.
Yes I am young and stupid I'm 22 and that's when things get hot I know but I do tell her what's bothering me, she acts like she owns me and that's how I started to feel myself. I work and earn everything in my life on my own and I give her everything I have and I guess that's a little too much and that pisses me off I don't want to be owned by a f***** female. She doesn't appreciate me but maybe she will when I'm gone.
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Thats a sensible answer.

If its that bad, sit her down and have a serious talk. Tell her that she cant be acting that way if she wants you to take it to the next level.

Otherwise, If you dont already have a house, id put 3.5% down on an fha loan and get a place instead of dumping it on 7 yr old car. A house and a stock m3 will get you a lot more poon if u end up single than a modded m3 alone. Plus you can cash out on it in a couple yrs when prices peak - up to 250k of earnings on the sale will be tax free.

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Old 02-08-2013, 03:29 AM   #11
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Save half of the money, forget you even have it
this is a great answer, too. definitely stand up for how you feel you deserve to be treated, as long as you're not being hypocritical.

the FHA loan on a foreclosed home is the absolute best advice in the market right now. best investment you could ever have in your early 20s. I wasted my money on cars at that age lol; would definitely do things differently if I could do it all over again.
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Old 02-08-2013, 09:03 AM   #12
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throw away what seems to be a pretty good 5 year relationship to dump 25k into a 10 year old m3 lol. I'd like to think you're a troll but I know there are extremely stupid people out there.

You can end the relationship without throwing money into a car.
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Old 02-08-2013, 09:24 AM   #13
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This clearly hasn't been a spur of the moment issue. Time to address it before you make a bad decision one way or the other. If that money isn't being saved for a high as possible yield do so...hell even locking it up in a 3 month short term CD would be a smarter idea. It forces you to wait and really think things through for that 3 month period. Trust me if you resolve your issue's in 3 months she'll still be there and so will your vehicle and or any subseqent mods you want to buy.
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Old 02-08-2013, 09:32 AM   #14
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People who dump mods into their car that are equal to the value of the car......

Solly nailed it
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Old 02-08-2013, 09:37 AM   #15
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Seriously? Sounds pretty stupid to me, OP. Sorry about the girl, but don't lose her and $25K. To lose the girl is unfortunate, but to lose both the girl and the money seems like carelessness to me. (paraphrasing "The Importance of Being Ernest"!

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If I still lived in Seattle I would come find you and slap you in the face. This tops out at one of the dumbest ideas I've ever heard, and I'm not ashamed to say I've had quite a few of my own "hey y'all, watch this" moments.

I can completely understand deciding to call off an idea of engagement if the relationship isn't working. I'd also express a bit of hesitancy at the idea of getting married at 22. At 25 I have come to realize I am no where close to ready to getting married. There have been three girls in my life who I have pondered that idea about, however now looking back I know I was way too young and wasn't as ready as I believed I was. It would have been a horrible idea. Now I have many friends who have gotten married and feel they've found the one; for the sake of their marriage I really hope they're right.

But blowing 25k on a car that isn't even worth that does not sound smart at all. Buy yourself some M's tickets as they've decided to keep Felix, hit up 2nd avenue in Belltown for a few nights w/ a grand in your pocket and spend it on girls who want you to buy them a drink, then go buy yourself a nice steak dinner at the Metropolitan Grill. Put the rest in the bank and reevaluate what you want in your life.
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Old 02-08-2013, 11:17 AM   #18
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Yes I am young and stupid I'm 22 and that's when things get hot I know but I do tell her what's bothering me, she acts like she owns me and that's how I started to feel myself. I work and earn everything in my life on my own and I give her everything I have and I guess that's a little too much and that pisses me off I don't want to be owned by a f***** female. She doesn't appreciate me but maybe she will when I'm gone.
seems like you just vented more to a bunch of strangers than you have to her over your entire relationship.

man up dude, don't sit here and whine about being her b*tch. communicate and put your goddamn foot down, if that doesn't work, THEN you walk away. break ups are like court, if you do it the wrong way, she will be the one laughing at your irrational actions, and you'll be the one banging your head against a wall. maybe she doesn't want to marry you because you are still immature? sorry for jumping to conclusions, but based on the way you are expressing yourself right now, you have a lot of frustration, and you seldom get it out
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ha, who are you kidding? she would never allow that.. just like she's not going to allow him to spend money on his car
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