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Old 02-14-2013, 11:24 PM   #1
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She won't marry me cuz I'm not Mormon.

It's been a rough 3 years with the love of my life. Trust issues and stubborn ways have made the grounds rocky but I see past that and know she's right. Relationships are never easy, I asked her to move in since we always have issues once apart. She's off in Idaho at a Mormon college studying to become a pediatrician while I work on my banking career in Jersey. She wants new to move out there and convert before we can marry. She didn't follow the religion at the beginning of our relationship but now she's like brain washed. She's far from a saint.. She broke up with me because she felt like I couldn't commit to her wishes. She calls me selfish, am I in the wrong here?? Any advise guys? Can I even say that she loves me after this?
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Old 02-14-2013, 11:26 PM   #2
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Old 02-14-2013, 11:33 PM   #3
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Exactly !!! Buy now she's trying to throw that guilt trip on me, bunch of tucked shirt panzis...

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Old 02-14-2013, 11:38 PM   #4
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Not that I know anything, but it would help to know how old you are, OP.
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Old 02-14-2013, 11:41 PM   #5
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23 she's 21 i've know her since she was 16.

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Old 02-14-2013, 11:44 PM   #6
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Man, you cant change peoples religious Ideas. I think its messed up.

If you love her try and talk some sense into her.
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Old 02-14-2013, 11:49 PM   #7
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dude, after everything you have said, i would have moved on. 3 rough years? how is marriage gonna make it better?
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Man, you cant change peoples religious Ideas. I think its messed up.

If you love her try and talk some sense into her.
I accept her religion, i've attended mass with her, i've been to her school and personally met her bishop. I'm a shitty.catholic. Like real shitty, but I have a spiritual peace. But she gave me the
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Old 02-14-2013, 11:51 PM   #9
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dude, after everything you have said, i would have moved on. 3 rough years? how is marriage gonna make it better?
I know, but it's like having a pos car you love. Hard to get rid of, but then you hate yourself after investing a lot.and getting nothing back.

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[QUOTE=blazedxjan;15164724]I accept her religion, i've attended mass with her, i've been to her school and personally met her bishop. I'm a shitty.catholic. Like real shitty, but I have a spiritual peace. But she gave me the
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I know, but it's like having a pos car you love. Hard to get rid of, but then you hate yourself after investing a lot.and getting nothing back.

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Sounds to me like you're just holding on because you're scared to look elsewhere. C'mon OP, don't hang on to a "POS" just because it's comfortable and you've already invested in it... You're not too old to be worried about settling down, you still have some years.

Besides, if you do get married, I think these problems will come up in the worst of ways. How will a shi**y Catholic and devout Mormon raise children?

But again, I know next to nothing...
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Sounds to me like you're just holding on because you're scared to look elsewhere. C'mon OP, don't hang on to a "POS" just because it's comfortable and you've already invested in it... You're not too old to be worried about settling down, you still have some years.

Besides, if you do get married, I think these problems will come up in the worst of ways. How will a shi**y Catholic and devout Mormon raise children?

But again, I know next to nothing...
No you make an excellent point. She's was my ride or die chick, I helped get a scholarship out there for a full ride. So I set my self up, we're very much alike which is why we always bumped heads.

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Sounds to me like you're just holding on because you're scared to look elsewhere. C'mon OP, don't hang on to a "POS" just because it's comfortable and you've already invested in it... You're not too old to be worried about settling down, you still have some years.

Besides, if you do get married, I think these problems will come up in the worst of ways. How will a shi**y Catholic and devout Mormon raise children?

But again, I know next to nothing...
This is excellent advice. Also, she's only 21!! (and you're 23...but it seems like you have your head in the right place). Faith in religion goes through ups and downs over time, and 20s are very developmental years. If she was late 20s or 30 and said you had to be a committed Mormon, that would be one thing, but she's only 21 and I can guarantee she will have down years in the next decade where it won't matter what religion you two are...perhaps it will be during that period that your lack of faith (relative to her) will help you both...you never know lol. such is the beauty of life!
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Old 02-15-2013, 12:21 AM   #14
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This is excellent advice. Also, she's only 21!! (and you're 23...but it seems like you have your head in the right place). Faith in religion goes through ups and downs over time, and 20s are very developmental years. If she was late 20s or 30 and said you had to be a committed Mormon, that would be one thing, but she's only 21 and I can guarantee she will have down years in the next decade where it won't matter what religion you two are...perhaps it will be during that period that your lack of faith (relative to her) will help you both...you never know lol. such is the beauty of life!
Thanks !!! But she's stubborn as mert (Mormon curse.substitute) she's dependent on it since she has parents that don't support her. But I feel unappreciated, she's out there 6 months out the years. So she's on and off about it but she's wants me to fully convert and do the whole Mormon thing. I respect it, but if I get down for that sole.reason then I might as well spit in the face of the Guy baptizing me in.

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Old 02-15-2013, 07:48 AM   #15
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Move on dude. You're young and she's obviously not into it as much as you are.
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You compare your girlfriend to a POS car while saying you want to marry her at 23 and 21 years old?

"Oh baby, you're my 88 Civic. Not much to look at, but at least you're reliable."

Move on with your life, and let her move on with hers.
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Old 02-15-2013, 10:48 AM   #17
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My nephew married a Mormon girl. The first girl that gave him any attention. He was Catholic and she converted him.. His mom did not even get to go to the “Church” for the wedding because she is Catholic. If you marry this chick, plan on 10% of your gross pay to the church. You will be encouraged to have children right away. Oh…. No drinking, Caffeine and plan on kissing her mother’s ass for the rest of your life… doing exactly what the church says to do… Just my observations. Oh do you know about the magic underwear?
I also lived in a neighborhood and was surrounded by all Mormons.. very interesting.
My advice.. move on!
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She's not the one for you. Break up. Heal. Then find someone who makes you happy.
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It isn't going to work out in the long run, so end it now.
You're too young to deal with this anyway.
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Old 02-15-2013, 11:19 AM   #20
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Sounds like a rough situation. Mormons confuse the fvck out of me sometimes. I've grown up with a few and the spectrum is outrageous . Some are honestly the farthest from Mormon as you can get, our Mormon senator recently got arrested on a DUI Sounds like way to many issues for there to be a reason to stay. I've been where you've been and know what it's like to be comfortable in a relationship and not move on. My best bud has been doing it for seven years. Let it go and know it'll sort itself out.
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