Very tough dilemma, it's ruining my life

Originally Posted by casino is no lie

Break up with the dentist. Stop wasting her time because you're not man enough to make the obvious decision. You're only holding on because it's comfortable and you're afraid you cannot find better.

I was there. Didn't like to admit it but I stayed because it was comfortable. Not because it was good.

It's actually good and comfortable with the dentist. But it does not feel 100% right.

What did you do at the end? Still with her?

Originally Posted by DylloS

I was there. Didn't like to admit it but I stayed because it was comfortable. Not because it was good.

Originally Posted by z00

It's actually good and comfortable with the dentist. But it does not feel 100% right.

What did you do at the end? Still with her?

nah man. We dated for almost 3 years. Kind of a mutual break up but it was her idea. I thought we should work it out, she didn't but I realized things are much better without her. The new girl is a complete upgrade.

*****s be like I'm in love.

Originally Posted by z00

It's actually good and comfortable with the dentist. But it does not feel 100% right.

This is the only thing I needed to read. It doesn't even matter if you can identify what it is about her that isn't right. Just break up and stop wasting her time and yours.

When you find the right one, you will not have that feeling.

Originally Posted by SLVR JDM

This is the only thing I needed to read. It doesn't even matter if you can identify what it is about her that isn't right. Just break up and stop wasting her time and yours.

When you find the right one, you will not have that feeling.

I think the problem is that a lot of people have that feeling at one point and someone changes but they are scared to admit it. I feel great with the new girl but we've been "together" 3 months at this point. I know things can easily change over time.

Agreed with solly, It's a concern I can say for myself. I've been hanging out with this girl and not really looking for anything else (I suppose I should) for a month now and I don't feel a thing, yet we get along well and have a great time. I could be apprehensive because of my ex which I can admit still urks me, understandably so, but who knows how time progresses. I don't even remember when I fell for my ex when I was dating her if it was this soon or after some time.

but I will say if right now you aren't for her physically eventually that will take a turn...I'd probably lean towards break it off before she gets too involved in you.

RUN BRO!

I'm kidding. But seriously, why does she feel the need to move so fast? I say you give it at least another six months and see how things pan out. Beauty comes within, but there also has to be an attraction. Again, if she can't respect that you want to take it slow, then she isn't for you. You WILL find someone else, eventually.

Originally Posted by z00

What would guys do if you were in my shoes?

I'd ask myself what I want out of a relationship.

I want to settle down.

Originally Posted by Alan

I'd ask myself what I want out of a relationship.

I'm attracted to her (everything, but her face sometimes I feel there is a lack of attraction). And the fact that sometimes she gets really emotional, mean, and starts fights for stupid reasons. Then comes back and apologizes. She does not do that often.

Originally Posted by 325iGirl03

RUN BRO!

I'm kidding. But seriously, why does she feel the need to move so fast? I say you give it at least another six months and see how things pan out. Beauty comes within, but there also has to be an attraction. Again, if she can't respect that you want to take it slow, then she isn't for you. You WILL find someone else, eventually.

There is just something that's not 100%. I guess I'm shallow and I'm not getting over those 2 things about this girl.

Originally Posted by mcr_driver

Agreed with solly, It's a concern I can say for myself. I've been hanging out with this girl and not really looking for anything else (I suppose I should) for a month now and I don't feel a thing, yet we get along well and have a great time. I could be apprehensive because of my ex which I can admit still urks me, understandably so, but who knows how time progresses. I don't even remember when I fell for my ex when I was dating her if it was this soon or after some time.

but I will say if right now you aren't for her physically eventually that will take a turn...I'd probably lean towards break it off before she gets too involved in you.

I have not met the dentist girl in 2 weeks. We're still taking a break.

I started hanging out more with two of the girls I met. One of them is more attractive. But honestly, I cannot stand her, I mean no charisma nor substance. Only good for a weekend for sex.

With women it looks like there is beauty, intelligence, and personality. You can have two of them in a girl you meet that's not already taken.

If it's not feeling 100% right, it looks like I should break up with the dentist already. But my heart aches as everything about this girl is right except for the two things I mentioned. **** this, I should get high, things are never easy.

Aw, things will be okay. Every girl is gonna be a b**** at some point but still, if you want to settle down then you need to make sure your heart is in it 110%. Good luck boo. It'll work itself out for the best.

Originally Posted by z00

I want to settle down.


I'm attracted to her (everything, but her face sometimes I feel there is a lack of attraction). And the fact that sometimes she gets really emotional, mean, and starts fights for stupid reasons. Then comes back and apologizes. She does not do that often.

You need to find something more stable and meaningful than being attracted to her physically. That will wane - and then what are you left with to support the two of you through the many rock roads of a relationship? Similarly - she needs to find something in you that is more stable than your income, car or looks.

Relationships are tough. You need core common interests, values and priorities to "settle down".

In few years she'll be an oral surgeon from Harvard making 400K+/y. I see what you're saying, I'm trying to get over these 2 issues. But things just don't feel right. At the same time, it's very hard to find someone else who is as compatible as she is. We have many attributes in common, the issue is from my side, she is in love with me and she really wants to work things out.

Originally Posted by Alan

You need to find something more stable and meaningful than being attracted to her physically. That will wane - and then what are you left with to support the two of you through the many rock roads of a relationship? Similarly - she needs to find something in you that is more stable than your income, car or looks.

Relationships are tough. You need core common interests, values and priorities to "settle down".

You'll figure it out. Just go with it, follow your heart & see what comes of it. Wishing you all the best!

All of this over her face and I can't believe nobody has asked for pics yet.

I uploaded and then removed them.

Originally Posted by Wes

All of this over her face and I can't believe nobody has asked for pics yet.

I thought she was pretty.

I know, my family and friends think I'm crazy because her face is cute, her body is hot. But at the end it's how I see her. Again, most people are getting hung up on one of the points I mentioned and forgetting about the other.

Originally Posted by 325iGirl03

I thought she was pretty.