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Old 04-08-2013, 08:59 PM   #1
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Asked her out and she never called

Met this girl in the service industry two years ago and I see her every now and then when I frequent her place of work. Sometimes she'll be serving me and we talk casually quite a bit. I decided to ask her to coffee back in February and she seemed happy to do so. She said she wasn't able to give me her number but she could take my number off my account. In hind sight I should have just written it down because I never heard from her.

I'm thinking she wasn't allowed to take my number directly from my account but fast forward to this week. I saw her again and she never mentioned anything about it, just the usual chatting. I should of said something but I missed my chance.

What should I do? This is my first time asking a stranger out for a drink so I'm not sure what to do. My friend says I should just forget it and that she's probably not interested but I'm not sure if I should give up so easily until I know for sure. I was thinking of asking her again without sounding creepy but am open to any thoughts.
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Old 04-08-2013, 10:50 PM   #2
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Met this girl in the service industry two years ago and I see her every now and then when I frequent her place of work. Sometimes she'll be serving me and we talk casually quite a bit. I decided to ask her to coffee back in February and she seemed happy to do so. She said she wasn't able to give me her number but she could take my number off my account. In hind sight I should have just written it down because I never heard from her.

I'm thinking she wasn't allowed to take my number directly from my account but fast forward to this week. I saw her again and she never mentioned anything about it, just the usual chatting. I should of said something but I missed my chance.

What should I do? This is my first time asking a stranger out for a drink so I'm not sure what to do. My friend says I should just forget it and that she's probably not interested but I'm not sure if I should give up so easily until I know for sure. I was thinking of asking her again without sounding creepy but am open to any thoughts.
Just fkn ask her again man? Whats the problem?

Btw the thread title is missleading.. you didnt actually give her anything..
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Old 04-08-2013, 10:55 PM   #3
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She's not allowed to give you her number = in a relationship.

Surely getting your number off your 'account' is a breach of her workplace privacy conditions..?

Safe to say she's not interested
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Old 04-08-2013, 10:58 PM   #4
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She's not allowed to give you her number = in a relationship.

Surely getting your number off your 'account' is a breach of her workplace privacy conditions..?

Safe to say she's not interested
Ye thats what i initially thought...
but if she was in a relationship.. why wouldnt she just say that?
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Old 04-09-2013, 01:31 AM   #5
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Old 04-09-2013, 04:42 AM   #6
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Find another service industry girl. Now that you have experience you won't be as reluctant to try it again.
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Old 04-09-2013, 05:36 AM   #7
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Is this like the "I want to date a poor person" thread?
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Old 04-09-2013, 06:17 AM   #8
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Just fkn ask her again man? Whats the problem?

Btw the thread title is missleading.. you didnt actually give her anything..
You're right, thread updated. Going to ask her next time I see her.

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She's not allowed to give you her number = in a relationship.

Surely getting your number off your 'account' is a breach of her workplace privacy conditions..?

Safe to say she's not interested
I was thinking that she wasn't interested or she was in a relationship I would hope she would have just told me. She said yes when I asked her to get a drink and she never mentioned a bf in any of our conversations. I'd like to think that she wouldn't just lead me on.

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Ye thats what i initially thought...
but if she was in a relationship.. why wouldnt she just say that?
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Find another service industry girl. Now that you have experience you won't be as reluctant to try it again.
I like this one. We'll see what happens..

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Is this like the "I want to date a poor person" thread?
I don't really care. I have lots of money and she's still in school so her job is just part time.
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Old 04-09-2013, 06:32 AM   #9
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You're right, thread updated. Going to ask her next time I see her.



I was thinking that she wasn't interested or she was in a relationship I would hope she would have just told me. She said yes when I asked her to get a drink and she never mentioned a bf in any of our conversations. I'd like to think that she wouldn't just lead me on.



Exactly.



I like this one. We'll see what happens..



I don't really care. I have lots of money and she's still in school so her job is just part time.
easy!

Just do it as your wrapping up the conversation..



Give more details about how you know her?




btw: even if she does have a "boyfriend" still ask her...
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Old 04-09-2013, 11:10 AM   #10
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Ask her again, even if she isn't interested and was only being polite at first. Since it's her job and she wants to be tipped well, not to mention not cause an awkwardness between you two since you're a regular she may give you a more direct response now. Definitely give her your number next time around as well or get hers.
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Old 04-09-2013, 11:25 AM   #11
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Sack up and ask her man. What's the worst she will say, no? Ok, onto the next. You'll never know what It could have turned out to be until you try. If you really like her or at least want to go on a date, just give it a shot. I'd rather find out it's horrible than live with the regret of wondering what it could have been..
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Old 04-09-2013, 11:35 AM   #12
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man up and ask her. Do you want to wonder what if? Or do you want to know the answer. Imagine how cute your kids might be.
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Old 04-09-2013, 01:17 PM   #13
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Thanks for the push everyone. It's not that I'm afraid to ask her, it's just that I wasn't sure if I should ask her again. But I'm definitely going to next time I see her and if it's not happening then I can get on with the next one.
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Old 04-09-2013, 01:20 PM   #14
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Thanks for the push everyone. It's not that I'm afraid to ask her, it's just that I wasn't sure if I should ask her again. But I'm definitely going to next time I see her and if it's not happening then I can get on with the next one.
yes, exactly. You not asking the next time you saw her showed you didn't really care. It may have sparked her interest. Maybe she'll go for it this time and give her your number if she can't give you hers. Make it happen.
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Old 04-09-2013, 01:28 PM   #15
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Good luck Kwando keep us posted
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Old 04-09-2013, 01:49 PM   #16
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I wouldn't ask her again. You don't forget about a guy you're interested in asking you out for whatever.
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Old 04-09-2013, 01:51 PM   #17
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Happens to me too. The point is that, waiting for her to call you back is something outdated or just a fairy tale myth. Next time you see her, just put your phone on Dial mode, keep it on the table right when she is there, and with a little smile, just point it to her (or gently put it in her hand) without saying anything. she will feel awkward to refuse you. if you feel like she is about to say no, just give her a bigger smile so that she feels more awkward to refuse. once she smile back, chances are that her fingers will be doing the work.
A year back, I was in a task where I had to get the maximum number of phone numbers at university over a period of one month. I learned these little tricks back then. You can give it a try. And if she doesn't give you her number, or politely refuse you, you just have to snatch your phone back from her in a playful manner while still having that smile. A way of saying that you are putting her out of the game and you just eliminated her from your list. that will help you to bail out of the situation without losing your balls.
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I wouldn't ask her again. You don't forget about a guy you're interested in asking you out for whatever.
No you don't but what's the worst that can happen? He's in the same place be is now but with his definite answer.
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She's not interested.. and you're probably being too friendly given the way you presented the above.

Man up and, next time you're interested, express such and ask her straight up. Don't sugar coat it or play super nice.. of all the pickup lines out there, "hi i'm ______" is the best.. and when looking for a date "hey would you like to go ________ on ______" is best. Beating around the bush = wimp.
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No you don't but what's the worst that can happen?
It can make a place he frequents awkward.
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